Last night I had the privilege of attending my friend Kathryn’s wedding. It was in the middle of nowhere, Wingham Ontario. If you’ve never been to Ontario or all you know about Canada is Toronto then I feel for you. Canada is huge, and there’s beauty outside of the downtown core. Wingham is a small town, like really small and it’s mostly farmland. It’s quiet and peaceful and I think I fell in love a little last night. Yesterday was just perfect. It was an amazing day with a lot of laughs and it was nice to see and be out in the country away from all the city noise.
During the receiving line both sets of parents said “You’re Adel!?!” Which was hilarious as Kathryn and I have a lot of funny story’s from our time at Mac. It was my first time meeting them and it was an absolute pleasure. Such humble people and kind. At the reception they shared stories about their children, what it meant to have their children find love and be happy. You could really hear how proud they were of their kids.
It’s funny, when your friends get married you’re happy for them, but it also makes you reflect on your life. It makes you ask, what are you doing? Now it’s not good to compare your lives to the lives of others, as their paths to get there are so very different that your own. But last night as I looked around, listened to the speeches I couldn’t help but think, what’s my wedding going to look like? Will I even get married? Who will I be getting married to? What will be said at my wedding? So many questions. I say there last night with my friend Nicole who was also invited. I sat there last night and I felt a little alone. The plan was to have me and my ex go to that wedding… together. And that didn’t happen, it also didn’t wipe the smile off of my face. I had a great time even though I didn’t drink, I had so many conversations with people and ate so much god damn food. I had a wonderful time despite all the thoughts that came into my mind. It’s normal to reflect on your own state of affairs, but last night my happiness for my friends took presidence. Like I said I had a lot of conversations with a lot of different people. It made me feel really comfortable and I think that was one of my favourite moments from last night.